Whether you're in the beginning of your relationship or have been together for few years, how do you know if you're dating the right person? conversation about just that with my best friend last night, who is going through a breakup after a five-year relationship.Sometimes it can be hard to tell: I definitely got involved with someone in my early 20s who turned out to be deeply wrong for me, but it took me six years to really figure that out.Maybe they are a bartender, and you wish they'd be a lawyer instead. Maybe you find yourself wishing they'd cut their damn hair already.Big or small, no matter: If you're hoping they'll be some way other than exactly the way they are, you're probably with the wrong person.In addition, if you’re casually dating someone and then have the desire to take things to the next level, it can be hard for you to transition your casual connection to that of a committed relationship, as the person you’re dating may not be looking for anything serious.Along these lines, people may also find themselves longing for the deep connection, intimacy and closeness that an exclusive and monogamous relationship can bring.
If you're capable of that kind of sex with a person who's not quite right for you, just imagine having that experience with someone with whom you connect on every level. You want to be with them because they are who they are, not for any other reason. We get involved with people for a million reasons — some prudent, some less so. But if your priorities are more along the lines of "I want to be with this person because they make me truly happy and vice versa," you're on the right track. But if you're doing all of that all of the time, guess what? I remember asking a friend how she knew her husband was right for her, and she was like, "I just know." Hate to say it, but that means that if you don't know, you probably know it's wrong.And depending upon your current relationship goals and personal preferences, casual dating can be a great option when it comes to getting to know multiple people at once and keeping your options open.However, if you know in your heart that you’re looking for a serious relationship and long-term commitment, casual dating may not be the best choice, as it can leave you feeling used, unhappy and unsatisfied.If you're not happy, anything can become a problem. Like a monster under the bed, it disappears when you shed some light on the situation.Maybe you go along with them to their favorite band even though you hate the music, or you accompany them to a gallery even though you'd rather be doing something else, but you do it grudgingly. If you're with the right person, you'll want to do what they want to do, even if it's not your cup of tea, because you want to support them. So for the love of all that is holy, turn on the light.